Do I look fat in this dress? Everyone knows that question is more loaded than Mel Gibson, Bradley Cooper, and Stephen King back in their heyday However, should you compliment someone on their weight loss? Singer, songwriter, and apparent sage Demi Lovato thinks that’s a bad idea. Lovato recently noted on Instagram (quotes taken from Self) that:
“Idk who needs to hear this but complimenting someone on their weight loss can be just as harmful as complimenting someone on their weight gain in regards to talking to someone in recovery from an eating disorder. If you don’t know someone’s history with food, please don’t comment on their body. Because even if your intention is pure, it might leave that person awake at 2 a.m. overthinking that statement.”
Looking at Lovato’s latest statement makes me wonder if she’s a self-absorbed hot mess with attention-seeking behavior or someone who thinks she has a wisdom that far surpasses her 28 years on the planet. Lovato clarified her position on compliments by adding compliments might appeal to:
“the loud ass eating disorder voice inside my head that says, ‘See, people like a thinner you,’ or ‘If you eat less you’ll lose more weight.’”
“Well damn. What did they think of my body before?” The moral of the story, they said, is that “I am more than the shell for my soul that is my body and every day I fight to remind myself of that, so I’m asking you to please not remind me that is all people see of me sometimes.”
Eating disorders are far too real and it’s always good to have people share their experiences and insights with the public. However, Lovato seems to want things both ways (and no, I’m not talking about her May 19, 2021 revelation on Twitter that she identifies as non-binary.
No, Lovato shouldn’t preach that it’s bad to compliment people on their weight loss when only recently, she posted a video via Instagram, boasting of her “accidental” weight loss. Demi Lovato may want to reconsider posting life-changing news and/or Lovato-inspired pearls of wisdom every week if she expects people to reflect on her comments rather than dismissing them as someone looking to trend on Twitter. Do you think Demi Lovato is seeking attention, seeking to help others, or something else? Leave your comments below.